Who gives way
Who gives way, and why
Thirty-one of the forty-seven fell on one of the two people. Not because of fairness or temperament, but because one job has appointments in it and the other does not.
Bedroom twoThe quiet room, and therefore the call room
9 m²
Sleeping
Paid workCallsGuest sleeping
8
Living roomWhere the other job went when the calls started
19 m²
Sitting
SittingPaid workCallsTelevisionCompany
11
Paid workDomestic workRest and sleepContact and care
Two rooms covering 28 square metres, built for two things. Between them they now carry eight uses. Two of the two carry more than one, and living room carries five. The median room is in use 9.5 of the 16 waking hours. The two rooms whose use is decided by somebody else's calendar.
Thirty-one of the forty-seven
Two people absorbed the fortnight's collisions between them, and one of them absorbed two thirds.
The job with the appointments
Thirty-four calls in fourteen days decided which of two people could rely on being in a particular room.
Interruptible is not unimportant
The job that gives way is being described by its scheduling, not its value. Conflating those two is the commonest error available when reading this record.
Nobody decided this
The most consequential arrangement in the record was settled in a few minutes, by people being reasonable, on the basis of facts that were true.
What the person who gives way gets
Fifty-two of the eighty-eight gains went to the same person who absorbed thirty-one of the forty-seven collisions. One property produces both columns.
The conversation that cannot fix it
A household can talk about fairness, consideration and taking turns. None of those reaches a distribution set by two employment contracts.
What would change the distribution
Four things would move the two-thirds split. Three of them are not available to a household and the fourth was tried for three days.
Two people, two fortnights
Asked how working from home was going, both people said it was going well.